Can criticism be good for us?

Can criticism be good for us?

Criticism often carries a sting. Whether it’s from a parent, partner, friend, or stranger, being told we are wrong, flawed, or “not enough” can trigger deep emotional wounds. But what if—when viewed through a spiritual lens—criticism holds the potential to be one of our greatest teachers?

From a holistic and energy-conscious perspective, criticism can act like a mirror, reflecting not only how others see us, but also the unhealed aspects within ourselves. If we find ourselves bristling at someone’s words, it may be a sign that they’ve touched something tender. Something sacred. Something still in need of love.

In the spiritual journey, there’s a concept known as the sacred wound—the original hurt that sets us on the path of healing and growth. Criticism, when received consciously, can touch these wounds, inviting us to turn inward and ask: What am I believing about myself that makes this so painful?

Of course, not all criticism is useful or kind. Some is laced with judgment, projection, or the speaker’s own unresolved pain. This is where discernment comes in. Spiritual maturity means learning to ask: Is there truth in this for me? If yes, we take it in humbly. If not, we bless it and let it pass, knowing that every person speaks from their own level of consciousness.

There’s also a distinction between constructive and destructive criticism. Constructive feedback, even when uncomfortable, aims to uplift, clarify, and inspire better alignment. Destructive criticism seeks to diminish. Spiritually, we’re encouraged to tune into the energy behind the words. Does it feel empowering, even if challenging? Or does it deplete your light?

The mystics teach us that everything can be used for awakening. Even the harshest comment can serve our evolution if we choose to meet it with awareness rather than defense. Criticism can humble the ego, soften pride, and open the heart. It can remind us that we are still students in life’s great classroom.

For the spiritual seeker, every encounter—especially the hard ones—is a chance to grow in compassion, understanding, and truth. Criticism gives us a chance to ask not just “What did they mean?” but also “What am I ready to heal?”

So, is criticism good for us? Spiritually speaking, it depends on how we hold it. If we resist, we suffer. If we invite it in with curiosity and love, it becomes part of our soul’s refinement. In this way, even the sting of criticism can become a blessing in disguise.

Try it and see!
Love & Light

 Roger

“You are coming from the point towards which you are going.”